The Art of Encouragement

Today I am proud to post a sermon from my father-in-law, H.B. Fuller (retired pastor but forever a preacher) that ties in wonderfully with my post from yesterday. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Do you ever feel like giving up? We all go through those periods when we want to throw in the towel. This is the pattern a lot of us go through. Listen and see if this is not similar to your experience. You feel people are saying things about you that just are not true. Work is a drudgery. Even things you used to do for pleasure become a task. You are tired, irritated with those who love you the most. Life loses its joy. Depression, frustration and a tinge of paranoia become your bedfellows.

About at this point, God raises up some friends who prove to be [true] friends. These Christian friends support, pray for, and love us. They have taken seriously Hebrews 10:25:

“not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some,
but encouraging one another,
and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”

How desperately we all need encouragement. It is wonderful to have a friend who does not hesitate to point out flaws in our Christian faith and conduct. This finest of encouragement is possible only between two friends who trust each other, and know each other well enough to laugh together at each other’s expense.

The creation of this living fellowship is surely one of the most urgent tasks of the church. Anyone who sets their mind to it can be an encourager. It requires no degree or ordination. All one needs is the willingness to give oneself to another person.

Interestingly, the word in the Bible reading in the 11th verse [1 Thessalonians 5] that the NIV translated “encourage” has its root in the word parakalos, usually translated “comfort.” When you make a noun out if it, the word becomes “comforter,” which we define as “one called alongside of.” The supreme Comforter is the Holy Spirit. When we become encouragers or comforters, we are doing work akin to that of the Holy Spirit. How awesome!!! What a privilege and responsibility to be permitted to work alongside of the Holy Spirit to encourage a struggling brother or sister. And yet there is the exhortation “encourage one another” (v. 11).

Walk (or sit) together.

Walk (or sit) together.

  1. ENCOURAGEMENT IS A PERSON

During one of the major offensives of World War II, Dwight Eisenhower was walking near the Rhine River and came upon a GI who seemed depressed. “How are you feeling?” the General asked. “Sir,” the young man replied, “I’m awful nervous.” “Well,” Eisenhower said, “You and I are a good pair then, because I’m nervous, too. Maybe if we just walk along together we’ll be good for each other.”

No speech, words of wisdom, or special advice necessary, just one person giving of himself to another.

Encouragement means “coming alongside to impart courage.” In a sense, encouragement is one person giving strength and support to another by osmosis, just being there radiating light, spiritual nourishment, strength. When we encourage, we snuggle up to an individual and show we care.

One of the great callings of the New Testament church, one of the great responsibilities of individual Christians is encouragement. Barnabas, whose name means “son of encouragement,” came alongside Paul to give him needed support for entrance in the early church. Let’s read the record in the Bible—maybe God will teach you a lesson I do not see. It is found in Acts 9:26–28:

“And when he had come to Jerusalem he attempted to join the disciples; and they were all afraid of him for they did not believe that he was a disciple. But Barnabas took him and brought him to the apostles, and declared to them how on the road he had seen the Lord, who spoke to him, and how at Damascus he had preached boldly in the name of Jesus. So he went in and out among them at Jerusalem.”

Paul not only benefited from Barnabas’ encouragement, but he learned the lesson well. Later, he became an encourager himself, especially for his young friend Timothy.

Encouragement is a person—you and I—an encourager giving self to another in distress—the distressed experiencing the benefit of his friend’s presence and taking up the ministry himself.

Created by Bonnie Gray, the Faith Barista

Created by Bonnie Gray, the Faith Barista

  1. ENCOURAGEMENT IS A WORD

Consider the following sound advice from Proverbs 25:11:

“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.”

The Japanese have a saying, “one kind word can warm up three winter months.”

We all need encouragement whose “pleasant words are a honeycomb sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24).

Vince Lombardi, the legendary Green Bay Packers’ football coach was a feared disciplinarian. But he never leveled a man without also seeking to launch him. One day he chewed out a player who had missed several blocking assignments. After practice, Lombardi stalked into the locker room. The player was sitting at his locker head down, dejected.

Lombardi mussed his hair, patted him on the shoulder, and said, “One of these days you are going to be the best guard in the NFL.” That guard was Jerry Kramer and he said he carried that positive image of himself the rest of his career.

“Lombard’s encouragement had a tremendous impact on my whole life,” he said. Kramer went on to become a member of the NFL Hall of Fame and a part of the NFL’s ALL 50-YEAR TEAM.

Do you offer encouraging words? Paul Tillich [one of the most influential theologians of the 20th century] said, “Almost every person you meet is fighting a great battle within.” People everywhere are in need of an encouraging word, an uplifting compliment, or a note of encouragement. Many Christians are discouraged and faltering in the faith. You can spur them on with your inspiring words.

What words to say? Sometimes one approach, sometimes another. BE THERE, GO and SAY something (make sure what you say is from the heart)—“I love you in the Lord.” “We care about you.” “I am praying for you.” “I am asking God to meet your need.” Be sure you ask God to give you the appropriate things to do and say.

Go to the hurting person when possible. If this is not possible, send a letter of affirmation, a note of congratulations, a pep talk, or a kind word from you. If you send a greeting card, write a personal note, even if it is no more than one line. You would be surprised at how many people read only what you wrote.

Your personal word, from the heart, inspired by God, can and often does make an eternal difference in someone’s life. It has in my life.

Church

Memorial Baptist Chapel

  1. ENCOURAGEMENT IS A CHURCH

The Bible makes it clear that the church is distinctive from the world in the area of encouragement. Our society [often] seeks to depress and defeat; the body of Christ desires to inspire and uplift. “We are called out ones,” the set aside ones. One of the distinctive callings of the Christian is to be an encourager. Listen again to the text from I Thessalonians 5:11:

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up,
just as you are doing.”

It can’t be any plainer. The church is [to be] a safe place of encouragement.

The early church was acquainted with persecution. Martyrdom was a daily occurrence. These people had reason to be depressed. Consequently, the author of Hebrews wrote a letter of hope and perseverance.

Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Hear closely Hebrews 10:25:

“not neglecting to meet together as is the habit of some,
but encouraging one another,

and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”

The body of Christ gathers for worship and fellowship with other believers. The church offers the warmth of a bonfire. But when we remove ourselves, the fire diminishes. Three times a week [let alone once a week] is little enough for the body of Christ to assemble itself together to be warmed by each other’s spiritual heat. Together hope is fortified, and life is renewed.

Christians thrive as a group, bunched up together. We are not designed to be loners. We draw strength from each other. When God’s people bunch up to pray, praise, preach—the power of God is magnified and individuals are encouraged. 

Many Christians take seriously the ministry of encouragement. A church in Oregon provides encouragement cards in the pew rack. Members take time before the worship service to write notes of encouragement to each other and others. These cards are collected and mailed.

Encouragement is the overall theme at a Texas church. The sanctuary is called “The Encouragement Center.” The pastor’s message on the weekly bulletin is labeled “The Encouraging Word.” The church newsletter is titled “The Encourager.” But more importantly, the membership takes seriously the need to encourage one another. No wonder people are attracted to this growing church.

CONCLUSION:

Find someone who needs encouragement. Give of yourself, say a word, or introduce him or her to the church—the safe encouraging place—or to Jesus—the encouraging Savior.

Sunday school classes must emphasize the ministry of encouragement. Teachers, please work on this. Give priority to it. If for one reason or another you cannot, encourage some of your members who appear to have this ability.

Of course, our best friend is Jesus. He is the premier encourager. If you do not know Him as Savior, now is the time.

Jeremiah

Jeremiah 29:11-14

Stay . . .

Stay

Stay

When I tell my dog Bella to “stay,” it means I want her to stay put, either sitting or standing, and not move from that spot until I tell her it is okay. She’s pretty good about listening up to a point, but then her puppy nature kicks in and she is ready to move again.

When I feel that God is telling me to “stay,” it is only through his Word and the words of those he puts in my path that I can interpret the meaning for this particular time in my life. Sometimes it might mean stay put, and in that case I might have to wrestle with my own restless spirit and the feelings that I need to be in control of my movement. But at other times, He could be telling me to stay focused, stay faithful, stay centered, stay immersed, or even stay happy. Currently, I believe He has been reminding me to stay connected.

Gideon Study

Gideon Study

I recently finished a Priscilla Shirer Bible study on Gideon subtitled “Your Weakness. God’s Strength.” It was an eight-week study that one of my neighbors invited me to join. The last time she invited me, I was too bogged down in work and could not afford to take the time away from my desk. If you’ve read any of my past blog posts, you’ll see that this has been somewhat of a reoccurring theme for me.

This time, however, I felt like I needed to takes some steps to get out of the rut I was in and begin to reconnect not only with other people but also with Scripture. So, I joined the Tuesday morning study, met some great ladies, and heard some powerful words from Priscilla. I did not always stay up-to-date on my homework or spend the time with it that I should have, but hey, I’m a work in progress, and I did make progress over the weeks.

When our study concluded this past Tuesday, many of us did not want it to be over. We planned a lunch date next month so that we could get together and share ideas for another study we could do or a book we could read and discuss or some other “thing” that would benefit our group and allow us to continue gathering and connecting. We were enjoying and wanted to continue the time of togetherness, the strengthening of our spirits, the accountability, and the encouragement.

Walk are meant to walk beside one another.

Walk beside one another.

Charles Stanley once wrote: “Consider the power of a friend’s encouraging words. Think about how meaningful it is when an unexpected blessing seems to fall from heaven right at your darkest moment. These are not ‘happy accidents’; rather, they are precious confidence builders from God.”

Speaking of unexpected blessings, the crazy thing about me running across this particular quote is that it came from an In Touch Daily Devotional on Gideon from October 7, 2008 that I just “happened to” run across a couple days ago. It was in one of my notebooks where I have printed out and saved words that spoke to me at previous points in my life. A good reminder that God’s Word (or words from those he has gifted spiritually) can speak to us over and over again at different times in our lives, and that the words we share with others to encourage them can be powerful reminders that we matter—to God and to others.

As someone who tends to spend a lot of time alone, I want to remind you (and myself) that I believe we are meant to live in community with one another and to be helpers and encouragers. Don’t miss out on the blessing that you can be to others and they can be for you. There is no reason for you to face your dark days alone and no reason to enjoy the great days without someone to share them with.

My husband believes in building and strengthening his work team. Encouragement is an important tool he uses.

My husband believes in building and strengthening his work team. Encouragement is an important tool he uses.

If you know of someone who doesn’t appear to be very connected, reach out to them with a phone call, email, or text (if you have their contact info); leave a note on their door or on their car; approach them at the grocery store or at church with a compliment or question.  Sometimes people who seem to have it all together are actually struggling with something and, on top of that, they feel like they are facing it alone. Be the hands that reach out to grasp another’s and offer a squeeze of understanding or comfort. Sometimes all it takes is a smile to lift someone else’s spirits (and your own).

I think we all have a tendency to go through periods where we focus on the things affecting our own lives and forget that it’s not all about us. I would just like to remind you how wonderful and fulfilling it can be to stay involved and engaged and to be a friend to others. Even dogs understand the importance of the pack. Stay connected, my friends!

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“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet
as perfume and incense.”
Proverbs 27:9, NLT