After the discovery of cancer in her brain in June of this year, my friend Denise Enos passed away on August 11th. I’m writing today’s post more for myself than anyone else. Just a way to say goodbye and to honor her memory. It’s scary when someone close to your own age dies, especially when it is so quick and unexpected. A good reminder that the choices we make, the focus we take, the lives we touch … every moment matters.
These are some of my memories of Denise:
Denise Enos adored her family and was strengthened by her faith.
She was bold, determined, and passionate about her beliefs.
She built strong relationships and treasured her friendships.
She appreciated beauty in nature as well as in man-made designs.
She savored good food and enjoyed great wine.
She believed in the power of possibility.
She was consistent and detail-oriented,
yet creative, adventurous, and fun.
In her work, she was a perfectionist,
so she could be hard on herself,
yet she offered others such grace.
Full of ideas, and always thinking,
Denise constantly sought improvement
in herself and in the workplace.
Because she cared so much about so many things,
she would sometimes get a little overwhelmed.
But venting with trusted friends and laughing
together over the craziness of our industry
helped keep us sane and fortified us to
go back another day and do it all over again.
We shared a love of family, faith, friends, imagery, words, language,
writing, consistency (especially the series comma), organization,
a positive attitude, and many other things.
Today, my heart is heavy,
acknowledging the fact that my friend is really gone.
She left quite a legacy and some very strong memories behind.
These memories allow the rest of us to taste small sips of comfort.
Although we pray that she rests in peace,
knowing Denise, her faith, and her living testimony,
I don’t think she’s resting at all …
I believe, today, she soars!
I think Denise would want us to remember and focus on the good times we enjoyed with her. I found some “Getting to Know You” questions and answers on her Facebook page. Reading through her answers made me smile. So, I thought I would share them here:
DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?
It is completely, embarrassingly illegible.
DO YOU HAVE KIDS?
My wonderful and amazing Marshall and Charlotte–I am so blessed.
IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
Oh, sure; I’m big fun.
DO YOU USE SARCASM?
BEST DAY OF THE YEAR?
Any holiday when I have my whole family together.
HOW DID YOU MEET YOUR SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT OTHER?
Through mutual friends–I am in their debt forever.
WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO IN LIFE?
“Love one another.” and “Don’t sweat the small stuff.”
WHAT IS YOUR MOST TREASURED POSSESSION?
They’re not really a possession, but I’d say my family.
WHAT CARTOON CHARACTER BEST DESCRIBES YOU?
The pig in Pearls Before Swine. I am ridiculously naive and optimistic–
thank God for my friends who “reality check” me on a regular basis!
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.
… It has no survival value;
rather, it is one of those things that
give value to survival.” —C.S. Lewis